fair

Fair. What does that mean? As a Mother I am constantly being told, "that's not fair!" It's not fair that we have to pick up someone else's messes. It's not fair that we have to wait our turn sometimes. It's not fair that someone got something that I didn't get. The list is endless of all the not Fair things that happen.

What about Life. What's fair then? It's not fair that someone has a better job than we have. It's not fair that some one's house is bigger than ours. It's not fair that some people can have kids of their own and some have to adopt. It's not fair that we have to experience hard things. It's not fair that people get hurt. It's not fair that people have to die. It's not fair that hard things happen to good people and nothing happens to bad people. Things are just plain not fair.

It's an emotion easily felt.

Things not being fair.

How do we understand or at least try to make sense of it all?

We've been in an interesting situation over the last 8 months as we just finished up our first Cancer treatment. We had to become a part of a sad world of cancer. I feel like we've experienced something very unfair. Why couldn't it have been someone else. After being placed into this so unfair life of Cancer I have lived and learned and experienced much.

I realized that:

Someone else did get cancer.

That someone turned into many others.

Those many others have been through worse.

Some have had it a little bit better.

Many and most are still fighting.

Some of the best have lost the fight.

The Fight of something that is not fair.

It's not fair to experience this all. Having to meet others. Others who share in this Cancer life along with us. Others that we love and care for deeply. Others that have touched our lives for good.

How do you make sense of it all? Is it fair that some gets to win? Is it fair that some get to celebrate life when others have to mourn loss?

I don't have all the answers because I too say it's not fair. It's not fair that I can't know what life might send our way. It's not fair that I get to be one to celebrate life when my friends have to mourn loss.

Fair or not life keeps happening. The good, the bad and the worse.

It's how we react to all our unfair moments that defines us all.